Sunday, July 29, 2012

The Final Hours of Preparation

The movers come tomorrow and it has been an interesting mixture of busy and lazy.  First we mowed, weed wacked and edged.  Then we finished laundry and packed our cloths, including my husband's uniforms.  My husband drained the gas and oil out of all the lawn equipment while I loaded the cars with everything we are bringing with us on the drive.  We are bringing things like bedding, an air mattress, irreplaceable heirlooms, our liquids box, our cloths, the cleaning supply box, etc.


After that I hid things that need to stay with the house in the third bathroom.  Things like the instructions for the stove and the racks for the microwave.  Then we picked up the house and helped the kids finish cleaning their rooms.  And at the end of the night we disconnected our electronics and zip tied all the cords.  And then we headed to our neighbors for dinner.


They were so nice to invite us over.  Little did we know that she was actually throwing us a surprise farewell party.  I was all choked up!  It was so sweet.  These neighbors are going to be sorely missed.


So now we are headed to bed to get lots of rest before our big packing day!

Saturday, July 28, 2012

The Nitty Gritty

Another busy day here.  First thing in the morning we took it easy and watched the Olympics.  After a couple of hours we decided it was time to get to work.  My husband went from room to room with the ladder and put puddy in the nail holes in the wall while I finished the laundry (if you can every really finish that) and packed the kids cloths for the time we will be without our household goods.


While we were watching more of the Olympics my husband fixed a shelf in the fridge and cleaned all of the shelves, while I dumped out perishables we won't be taking with us and put the containers in the recycle bin.


Next he fixed a light fixture while I took down the kids shower curtain, putting it over a chair to dry out and changed the massage shower head back to the original one.  And while we were doing that I had the kids pack the toys they want to take with them in the car, and had them clean up their rooms a little bit.


At the end of the day my kids had the most special farewell play date of all.  My oldest child's best friend came over for a pajama party!  They had a wonderful time together with board games and nail polish.  It was so sweet to listen to them play.  While they were screeching and howling with laughter my husband cleaned the grill. 


And finally, after a very long and productive day, I plan to sleep exceptionally well!

Friday, July 27, 2012

11 Days Left

Today I cleaned out the safe and added all of its contents to our pile of things going with us in our cars.  I also added a few kitchen items we will need while we are transitioning between houses.  Things like a pot and pan, a cookie sheet, tin foil, saran wrap, a spatula, bowls and utensils.  We are staying in our house for a couple of days after the movers pack our things, so these items will help keep us from eating out too often.  I also added bedding to the pile as well as school supplies, my husband's gun and bullets, and special heirlooms that we just don't trust the movers with.  The pile is getting bigger by the day!


Then I put together the personal file folder.  These are a folder of documents like birth and marriage certificates, deeds to any home you may own, power of attorneys and wills, my husband's orders and his last Leave and Earning Statement.  It also has school records for my kids and medical records we have collected, including their immunization records. 


Throughout the day I did laundry and tomorrow I will be packing all the cloths we will need with us.  For the kids that means at least a weeks worth of school cloths.  For my husband it will mostly be his uniforms, which he recently had laundered so he is all set for work when we arrive.  I will pack minimally since all I plan on doing while I am there is unpack! 


I also pulled down the curtains and rods.  Tomorrow we will patch the holes in the walls.  I didn't bother washing the curtains because I always feel like they are dirty after being packed away in a box with other household goods.  I will wash them when I unpack. 


Once it cooled off in the evening my husband cleaned out the cars.  Our cars tend to be cluttery all the time.  I don't want to move with mess of a car, so I took care of that tonight too.  Normally we would have our cars serviced before a move because of the distance we are driving.  But we recently had them serviced when we drove up there for our house hunting trip.  So we are going to skip that.


While he was doing that I sprayed the sidewalk cracks with weed killer one last time before our walk through.  Then I weeded the garden areas of the house, shaped the bushes and trimmed the palm trees.  And I scrubbed a spot under the eaves of the house where my kids drew with chalk and it never washed away with the rain.  I want the house looking spiffy when our landlord arrives for our walk through!


I donated some open kitchen ingredients to a neighbor and my husband cleared out the attic crawl space so it can all be packed on Monday.  This move is almost here, can't wait to just be done with the preparations and on to the excitement of a new home!

Thursday, July 26, 2012

12 Days Left

Today was a busy day.  We spent a few hours having two more farewell play dates before coming home to get things ready for the movers on Monday.  First I pulled out what I call my liquids box.  It is a glass dish box I got from u-haul with dividers.  I go through every room in the house and find all of the liquids, and anything else the movers will not move.  Then I fill up the box, and whatever is left I give away or throw out.  This box will go with us in our car.


I was actually able to get more in this box after I took the picture


While I was doing this I also put together a box of cleaning supplies that we will need to clean our house before we do our walk through.  I also taped up all of our open dry goods, otherwise the movers won't move them because it can attract rodents and bugs if our things go into storage.  If you look closely you can see packaging tape on the tops of all of the containers.


Next I did some more home purchasing paperwork and took all of the pictures off the walls. We have one picture that has a special made box with packaging that we keep, so we took that down and packed it all up.  Other wall decorations have their own screws or special hangers, so when I take them down I tape the fasteners to the back of it.  That way they are all together and I am less likely to loose things.  I also took down the decorations on top of the kitchen cupboards so the movers can pack it all up and placed all the delicate art the kids have up for decorations in a folder and put it in our filing cabinet for a safer move.


Then we replaced all of the light bulbs in our house.  This sounds crazy, I know.  But the energy efficient bulbs are very expensive, so we decided to replace them with the cheap bulbs and we packed our bulbs in a box with peanut packaging.  We will take them with us in the car.


My husband verified our moving dates with the moving company yesterday.  There was some confusion about whether or not our movers were coming on Monday as planned, or if they were coming tomorrow (Friday).  That change is a huge deal because if there were coming on Friday then we loose a whole weekend to get prepared, and we would have had to reschedule our last farewell play date.  Thankfully it was a mistake which my husband was able to clear up.  The movers are coming on Monday as planned.


Today was a very productive day and the rest of the weekend is going to have to be that way as well.  Fingers crossed that we stay in good health and good spirits to get through this busy time.

Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Farewell Friends

This has been a week filled with farewell play dates.  We have had one every day this week!  It has been bittersweet saying goodbye.  The kids have had a great attitude about it all and enjoyed their friends emmensely.  There have been no tears, at least not yet.  I know they will miss their friends here but are also excited about what the future holds.


As far as moving logistics go, we are getting it all done a little at a time.  The medical records are still in the works.  The home purchase seems to be on track again, which is a huge relief.  The new owners of our swing set have come to take it apart and have cleared most of it out of our yard.  We bought a couple of new school outfits, shoes and backpacks.  I donated cloths and other miscellaneous things we no longer need.  And my hubby took some paperwork to be shredded, since our shredder broke.


Since my husband is graduating from college, he has been getting his cap and gown, extra tickets, and school records in order.  And we have made reservations for dinner that night.  It is going to be a whirlwind of work and celebration over the next two weeks!

Monday, July 16, 2012

22 Days Left

Today was about checking things off the List.  I took my oldest to the doctor for her before-school shots and physical and then drove across town to get some more stray medical records for my youngest.


Then I called my realtor.  The house buying process is not going as smoothly as most.  For whatever reason the sellers are not communicating with us.  To make a long story short, they have not sent any of the requested documents or done any requested repairs.  I am worried that we will be living in TLF until we can find another home.  That isn't so bad except the kids will start school while we are there and then have to switch schools after we move into a home.  I would rather not do that to them.  Moving is hard enough!  I feel like I am failing my kids.  Unfortunately I don't have any control over what happens next, so I am trying my best to let it all play out. 


To relax and have some fun, I took the kids to lunch and shopping.  We bought new backpacks and a few outfits for the new school year.  It was nice just hanging out with them.


My husband also got a quote from a painter to paint the inside of our rental house.  We plan on asking the landlord to deduct that from our deposit.  Normally I wouldn't do that, I would let the management company deal with it.  But since this woman is elderly and does not pay a company to manage her property, I felt it was the least we could do.  She has treated us so well.  We have had many landlords in our adventures and she is by far the best we have ever had the pleasure of doing business with. 


So as we start another week I am hopeful there will be no more hiccups, and we can get on our way to our next big adventure.

Sunday, July 15, 2012

If it Can go Wrong it Will

I am not usually a pessimist.  In fact, I pride myself on seeing the good in almost every situation.  I like the saying, life is 10% circumstance and 90% attitude.  Any situation can be stressful, but how stressful it is depends on how you choose to look at it.  When someone asks me if I am looking forward to this move, I say yes.  How can I not?  How can I say, 'no it's horrible.  I can't believe my lot in life!'  You have to make the best of what has been given to you.  I choose to focus on the good.  Not that anyone should delude themselves that there is nothing wrong in their life!  I just don't dwell on it.  I choose to be happy.


So that is my philosophy in life.  But in the moment, especially a stressful one, it is hard to keep that attitude all the time.  And right now I am struggling with it.  It seems that this move is riddled with mishaps.  I have had to remind myself a lot lately that my life is good and wonderful and that it will all work itself out.


Last night, in the middle of the hottest month in Florida, our air conditioner gave out.  And yes, last week the garage door broke.  This house is falling apart and I feel so bad for our landlord!  So I am sitting in this muggy house, with the kids and dog and the house fans on high, praying the landlord will get it fixed soon.


In the scheme of things, that is really not that bad.  It just happens to break right before our move.  Which no matter how much you plan or how often you have done it, it is stressful.  And this move had been riddled with problems, including my daughter breaking her tooth while we were house hunting, the inspection on our new house being less than stellar, the sellers of our new home dragging their feet and not getting us a single document to get this sale through, the garage door trapping my car when it broke, medical records scattered from here to Timbuktu.  The air conditioner is just one more thing not going as planned!  


Okay, so the up side?  My family is healthy, and honestly my kids have a great attitude about it all.  So I choose to be grateful.  I am blessed with wonderful family and a life full of laughter.  One little air conditioner isn't going to change that!

Friday, July 13, 2012

Stress

I took one of my kids to the doctor for her school physical and had them print off her records for me to hand carry to our next base.  Then I called her physical therapist and asked that they have her records available to pick up next week.  I also dropped off some paperwork at my other daughter's doctor for them to fill out ahead of her visit next week.


And because it sounded fun, I took the kids shopping for school cloths.  But I guess it is too early for that because they still have summer dresses on the racks.  It wasn't a complete fail though, we were able to buy new school shoes.


And lastly, my husband replaced burned out light bulbs.  You know, the really tough to reach ones or expensive ones?  The ones you avoid until you just can't avoid it anymore?  So now we have fully functioning light fixtures in every room.


For some reason I am stressing out over this move more than others.  I am not sure exactly why, but it is what it is.  So I ordered a pizza and rented a movie and we are going to cuddle up on the couch and forget the rest of the world for awhile.

Thursday, July 12, 2012

26 Days Left

For the move today I download an audiobook for the car ride.  And I took the kids to a farewell play date, our first of many. 


And finally I help my kids take down the wall stickers on their walls and put them on saran wrap.  I have found that the clingy saran wrap works the best for this.  Carefully pull the wall stickers off the wall and place them on the sticky side of a piece of saran wrap then roll it up like a poster.  They move great this way and are easy to detach from the saran wrap when you are ready to decorate your new house!

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Fiasco

Our garage door is fixed!  It was actually pretty painless, he was on time and gone within an hour.  While he was here I reserved a room for the first travel day of our actual move.  We learned after our last move that the La Quinta chain is a very pet friendly hotel that does not charge extra for your pets to stay.  So we found a La Quinta and reserved the room at the government rate, since we are traveling on orders. 


Then I went ahead and printed our maps from Google Maps with our specific destinations on there, along with contact information.  Then I fished out our road atlas to take with us in the car.


After the garage door repairman left, a carpet and tile cleaning company came by to give me an estimate.  I liked their price so I scheduled the carpets and tile floors to be cleaned on the morning of our walk through.  It is cutting it a little close, but that was the only time I could fit it in.  


A friend of ours offered to watch our dog for us once we arrive in town until we close on our house.  That was so nice of her!  So I no longer have to find a decent kennel for our dog during those days.


And finally I spent a little time working on house buying paperwork before I called the base medical records office to see about getting our records forwarded to our new base.  What a fiasco that was!  After hours on the phone figuring it all out, it comes down to this.  We have medical records at six different doctors offices, including half of my youngest daughter's records inexplicably being left in the Midwest!  And each office has different guidelines on how to forward them.  What a headache!

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

28 Days Left

After I pulled into my garage today, the garage door broke trapping my car inside.  Having this happen less than four weeks from our move is just Murphy's Law isn't it?  So tomorrow morning I will be waiting around for the repairman to fix it and save my car.  But on the up side, this gave me a chance to talk with my landlord about the pro-rated rent for the remainder of our stay in the house, and to schedule the walk through.  So I checked that off the list.


After that I finished what I could on my list of address changes.  There are a couple that have to wait until we move.  Then I researched dog kennels and asked friends for recommendations in case our dog does not get to stay with us in TLF.


And finally I relaxed.  I took the kids to swim lessons, I read a little, and I wrote this post.

Monday, July 9, 2012

29 Days Left

Today I contacted friends to get rid of some items that did not sell at our yard sale a few months ago.  I was able to find a good home for a kids bike and some bedding we no longer need.  Then I called TLF again to see if there were any pet-friendly rooms that happened to get cancelled.  No such luck.


And finally I reviewed our finances to be sure we have the necessary cash to travel with.  If we needed it we could contact Air Force Aid Society for emergency funds to help with our move.  There are also ways to get a months advance pay from the finance office.  Although the military does pay for so much of our move, there are times when it is not enough and these offices are wonderful services.

Sunday, July 8, 2012

Weekend Work

I mostly took the weekend off from moving stuff.  I say mostly because I did do some internet research on purchasing a refrigerator, found a local book club and children's story time, and registered the kids for fall sports in our new town.  I looked at my handy move checklist and am very happy to say it is nearly done.  I know it is early, that is just the way I do things.  But that gives us time for play before we have to move!

Friday, July 6, 2012

32 Days Left


Today I took the girls to a play date with some friends.  It was nice to chat with friends while watching the kids play.  It was not an official going away play date, but it was nice to get out.


While out we stopped in to our pediatrician's office to have the kids medical records transferred to their office from an old pediatrician in the area that I was not happy with.  This is something I should have done many months ago but never got around to doing.  Now I am paying the price because I need my kids to have a physical and immunizations to start school next year along with a signed form for their school.  So we had the records transferred and made a doctor appointment for a later date to get the school physicals done.

 
Once home I called TLF to see about their pet friendly rooms.  Wright-Patterson is one of the few Air Force bases that has a limited number of these rooms, but when I made my reservation last week they were all full.  I was told to call every few days to check about cancellations, so I called but didn't have any luck.  I will keep trying.


Then I spent a good amount of time turning off our utilities and making address changes with the many companies we do business with including our bank and credit card companies, insurance, our dog's vet, the IRS and DMV, and various other companies.  I did not finish though.  After two hours on the phone or on the internet, I quit for the day.  I will have to finish on Monday.


And because I have mail now going to a house that we do not inhabit yet, I contacted the post office to have our mail in Ohio held at the local office.  Little by little it will all get done.

Thursday, July 5, 2012

Vacation is Over

Today was about securing our new housing.  We have been waiting on inspection reports for our new home to come back before going forward with the purchase.  We hit a little bump in the road, but it now looks as though all is well in the housing department!  Whew.  Not having a house would have been a huge stressor and I am so happy we do not have to deal with that!  So I spent a bit of time today getting paperwork signed and returned to our real estate agent.   


I also spoke with the moving company who did a telephone assessment of the house.  Usually they come out to your house before the move to assess how many boxes they will need, how much room on the truck they will need, and how long they need to pack up all of our stuff.  But since we have moved so many times they felt comfortable doing it over the phone.  So I spent about an hour with him going from room to room talking about our belongings.


And finally, I started contacting my children's closest friends to have farewell play dates.  I debated on having one big going away party or just having smaller play dates and decided that smaller play dates would be best.  I was a little worried about the over-stimulation of one big party and then thought that smaller play dates would give my kids more time with each friend.  So the week before the movers arrive we are hopefully going to have a string of kids coming over with tons of fun play time.

Wednesday, July 4, 2012

Independence Day

For the move I was able to sell our swing set.  The new owners will come get it at a later date.  And the rest of the day I spent loving and appreciating my family and my country.  Happy birthday America!

Tuesday, July 3, 2012

35 Days Left

Today I took the girls to the pool to play with some friends.  It was just what the doctor ordered, relaxing on a hot summer day, chatting it up with a good friend and playing with the kids.  I hate to admit it but sometimes I just can't have a productive day.  I think I need to learn how to have days like today without guilt.  But I'm not there yet.  :)


Once home I checked in with my realtor and emailed a few documents.  And later that evening we went out with my husband's co-workers for a farewell dinner for him and two others.  I put this in because saying farewell is very much a part of the moving process.  It was all yummy food and talk of the future.

Monday, July 2, 2012

Day by Day

I decided to change my style for this blog now that the move is getting so close.  My goal is to check in every day until we have driven away from our old home, and beyond.  And honestly, who wants to read a whole laundry list of things done?  That seems dry to me.  So here I go, hope you enjoy it.


What I did for the move today:  Today I called the moving company to confirm that the moving dates we requested were accepted.  I spoke with someone who then told me someone else would call me back in ten minutes.  I did not hear from anyone again today.  I guess I'll be calling them back.  :(


In the afternoon I took my daughters to the mall to look at bedding.  One of the things I like to do to get the kids excited about moving, and to help them start visualizing their new home, is to let them redecorate their rooms.  We have been talking about this for weeks now.  They have gone from pink rooms, silver rooms, green and purple rooms, to blue ocean rooms.  They have stuck with the blue ocean theme for a long time.  It sounded really fun with dark and light blues on the walls, dolphin and orca appliques, blue bedding and curtains, and glow in the dark stars on the ceiling.


So we headed out to find blue bedspreads.  While we were looking my youngest found a very frilly, pink and green comforter set complete with sham, throw pillow, curtains and one of those sheer halo bed curtains to hang over the top.  She was absolutely sure she wanted it.  Okay!  No blue for her.  Then my oldest decided she really liked her sister's choice, so we bought two.  Now we know they will have frilly pink and lime green rooms in Ohio.  


Later I showed the swing set to a couple of interested people.  Hopefully it will sell soon!

Sunday, July 1, 2012

Now Back to This Checklist

We have a house and about five weeks to get ready for this move.  Here is what we have done so far.

~ Set up our expense log for the move.
~ Updated my house inventory, complete with pictures.
~ Gone on a house hunting trip and secured a house.
~ Registered the kids for school while we were on the house hunting trip.  The gaining school will request school records from our child's last school, but it is a good idea to hand carry what records you have like report cards, IEP and counseling records, test results, etc.
~ Advertised our swing set in the hopes of selling it soon.
~ Turned off the automatic payment to the our electronic toll road gadget, since it is not useful to us once we move.
~ Contacted the Traffic Management Office (TMO) who will set us up with a moving company.  We are still waiting to hear back from them about the exact dates of our move.  Our fingers are crossed that we will get the dates we requested!
~ Given notice to our landlord.
~ Reserved TLF for a couple days in our current town as well as a couple of days in Ohio before we close on our new home. 
~ Arranged for pet lodging since TLF does not allow animals.
~ Arranged for childcare on the days the moving company is hopefully arriving, as well as for the date we are to close on our house in Ohio.  The base offers free childcare during our move through certified providers.  Contact the Child Care Center to get a list of providers. 
~ Seen our dentists for the last time and requested that they forward our dental records to our next base.
~ Checked that there is no lapse in our renters/homeowners insurance during the move.  Heaven forbid there is a fiery crash on the highway and all of our belongings go up in smoke.  But if that happens I want to know my stuff will be replaced!
~ I have made a list of every agency or person I must contact to change my address with.  I haven't started yet, but I will be calling a few a day before the move.
~ And I have started to use up all of the things I cannot move such as liquids like soap and olive oil, cleaning supplies, perishable foods, etc.  I do have a small box I will fill up and take with me in my personal car, but the movers will not move any liquids, flammables, household chemicals, or things that can melt like candles.


There is still plenty more to do.  Probably most important is keeping my sanity.  Talking with my kids about their fears and finding ways to get them excited about this move is part of that.  Taking time to relax.  Maybe go on a date with the hubby.  Take a hot bath and unwind.  Keeping myself calm helps me stay patient with my kids and with all of the people I encounter through this whole process.

Finding A Place to Live

Finding a home from another state is not the easiest task.  That is why the military has base housing and other lodging called Temporary Living.  As long as their is availability you will have a house on base.  That is a huge comfort.


Base housing ranges from row or quartered town homes with carports, that are on average about a thousand square feet, to single family residences with single car garages that are around eighteen hundred square feet.  There are also houses for high ranking officers that are bigger. 


Living on or off base is a personal decision, unless of course you are required to live on base housing.  There are certain circumstances where that is the case.  For us, we spent weeks looking online at homes, both rentals and ones we could purchase, and decided to buy a home off base.


Having a home to settle into right away was important to me on this move, mostly because we would be arriving so close to the start of the new school year.  I did not want their to be any uncertainty about what school the kids would go to.  And I particularly did not want to have to start them in one school and then switch them to another school once we found a permanent home.


So we decided to go on a house hunting trip before the actual move date and secure ourselves a home.  It was a two day drive where we stayed with friends along the way.  That is one of the many great things I love about the military family.  Calling a fellow military family and asking to crash at their house for a night is not an unreasonable thing to ask.  We have all been there, and giving and receiving that kind of support is second nature.


Once we were in Ohio we stayed in the Temporary Living Facility (TLF).  Temporary Living is just what it sounds like, a temporary place to rest your head until you can find more permanent quarters.  Depending on the base it can be similar to a hotel with a kitchen area, bathroom, and a bed or couch with a hide-a-bed.  Other bases TLF are larger with two bedrooms, a living room, and even a garage.  It all depends on where you are stationed.  But they are all furnished with the basics, including kitchen necessities.  In temporary living you are allowed to stay for 90 days for a very reasonable price.  So if you cannot go on a house hunting trip ahead of time, this is a great place to stay while you look for a home.


Our house hunting trip was four days plus the two days on either end for travel.  That is not a lot of time, but if you do your homework before you go, you can find yourself a nice home that is just right for you and your family.  Here are the resources we used for this trip.


~ Friends - We contacted friends that live in the area and asked them for realtor recommendations, and to get feedback on the school districts.
~ usaa.com - They currently have a Movers Advantage program that will pay you money at the end of closing if you use one of their realtors.  The realtor we were told about was a certified USAA realtor.
~ realtor.com
~ zillow.com
~ maps.google.com - for the street and satellite view as well as general map information
~ militarybyowner.com
~ rentals.com
~ valoans.com/calculator_payments.cfm - VA loan calculator